Dating: for singles, the concept is normal. However, for married couples, the concept may be a little unfamiliar. In fact, I don’t remember the last time my wife and I dated. We tried, unsuccessfully, last fall. However, after much coaxing, my wife has convinced me to go out with her again. Now that’s the wrong way for things to work!
Actually, we have been so busy with moving, homeschool, church, fixing up the house . . . you name it!
Wait, those are just excuses! We are all adults here, right? That means WE have the choice where we set our priorities and what we do with our time. We just CHOOSE to “say” that we must do something else. In reality, all of us have to make decisions about what we spend our time doing.
Unfortunately that’s the way church is sometimes. We don’t have “time” to teach Sunday School, go on mission trips, or minister in the local community. In reality, these are choices we consciously make.
Hey, I’m not trying to step on toes – I am guilty of not prioritizing very well also. Sure there are things that must be done (like paying bills), but other items not done around the house won’t cause us to wind up in jail if we take a few moments to spend with our children playing, with our wives on a date, or at church serving a need.
Jesus said that:
“…a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, 8and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Mark 10:7-9 ESV)
Note, it does not say that busyness is an exception for allowing a man and wife to separate. It does not say that kids’ sports or activities, house clutter, work, or other time consuming task is an acceptable excuse. It says that the two are one; and if two are one, then they better spend time becoming ONE, not TWO again.
And for us men out there, a reminder about Jesus’ teaching on how to love:
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25 ESV)
Now, if we think about HOW Christ loved the church, He gave His life for it. Thus, we are to give our lives for that of our wives.
That being said, it is time to do just that! The best way I have learned to give my life to my wife is spending time with her. Therefore, date night is upon us!
Kimberly, will you go out with me tomorrow night? (I hope she says YES, this is posted in a public domain!)